So it’s been awhile since I posted a post. I been pretty busy recently with work and just life in general. Mostly work. I got 2 jobs we are wrapping up, as well as a few starting up. I finally have some time to just chill out and figure some things out. I feel like the last post I made about Life and Love that I just was posting what I wrote out off the top of my head was a lot more successful than the other one. So here goes Love and Life Part 4. Hope everyone enjoys it.
Start off with. My most recent girlfriend and I split. I am not going to really talk about that. I’m not going to use this as an outlet to bash or complain about the relationship. She’s honestly one of the sweetest, nicest, and down to earth people that I’ve ever met. And I am incredibly grateful to have spent the time I did with her. However, I am surviving and doing as good as I can be. Easiest way to say it… Anyways, to begin with I’ve learned a lot about love and life in recent years. I feel like there are some key points about being in a relationship and being in love.
- Love is about finding the person who makes your heart complete.
- Love is about finding the person who makes you want to be a better person.
- Love is about finding someone who inspires and helps you to reach your dreams.
- No relationship is perfect.
- It’s not about finding someone who won’t fight with you, make you sad, or piss you off. It’s about finding that someone who will still be standing there through it all.
There’s more that I’ve learned which I will tell. Also, perhaps I am rehashing other things from my other Love and Life posts. If I am, I apologize. However, I feel like those are some good key points. Too many times have I seen someone in a relationship, where they’ve put what they wanted on hold for the other person. Which is acceptable in certain circumstances. Life isn’t easy, love isn’t easy. It’s not meant to be hard by all means but there’s always going to be hardships. If you can’t find a way to stand next to each other at the end of the day and have a game plan to fix it then what’s the point of being together? Yeah, you love each other but it shows that you don’t depend on each other. No relationship is perfect, life isn’t perfect. I don’t know how many times, life has been going good for me and then BOOM!!!!!! A brick wall out of nowhere and I got a broken nose (figuratively not literally). You just never know what to expect. Which is why I try to keep my hopes down to Earth now, so I am not as disappointed.
People always think the most painful thing in life is losing the one you love or value. I think the most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving and valuing someone too much that you end up forgetting that you’re special too. If that makes sense. I’ve been in. I’ve seen people, close family and friends, that have been in relationships that have been so one-sided that you get blinded by your infatuation with the person that you lose sight of yourself. I’ll admit it’s a horrible feeling losing someone you love or value. God knows I’ve lost so many people that I’ve felt like I loved. Did I really love them? I just put value on them. In my lifetime, I can honestly say that I’ve truly loved 3 of the girls that I’ve dated. No offense to any of the others, you were all quite nice and lovely. With all the relationships I’ve been in, however long or short they were, I’ve learned something each time through all of them. What I want, what I’m looking for, what I’m not looking for, as well as what I need to work on. I am not perfect by all means, I know I am a tough person to be with. I feel like I’m learning ways to try to fix those each time.
I have some things that I am absolutely terrified of, 2 of those things are spiders and snakes. I hate them. I despise them with a passion. However, one of my greatest fears is I will die without finding the soul who matches the fire in these eyes. I’m terrified that I’m going to never meet the one. Everyone says, “Hey you’re 23, you’re young. You got plenty of time. God has got someone out there for everyone.”. That may be true, but it doesn’t make it any more comforting to me, you know? I believe that God has a plan for you. I don’t understand the plan he has for me.
The other day, I have a friend, who is a girl. She has a boyfriend. The girl is just really awesome, fun, beautiful, easy to talk too, and so many other things. I value her. She’s one of my best friends in my opinion. I decided to tell her that I enjoy talking to her, that she was all the things I listed above, and that talking to her on a rough day made my day better. Just so she would know how much I value her friendship you know? She responded with we probably shouldn’t talk as much because she feels guilty. Which is perfectly fine by me you know? I understand she has a boyfriend. Was I try to do anything? Absolutely not. I’m not that kind of guy. I’ve just been going through some things recently and I just felt like sharing. I don’t think I was wrong to tell her that. However, if anyone wants to tell me I was and why I was. I would be happy to hear it. So don’t hesitate to message me. I feel like life is too short to hide how you feel and it’s too short to not tell someone you care about that you care about them. It’s that simple.
Sometimes in life and love, it’s not about finding the old spark but igniting a new one. And if you are in a bad relationship or just got out of a relationship, if you can love the wrong person that much…just imagine how much you can love the right one. It doesn’t matter who hurt you, broke you, beat you down, but what matters is who made you smile and love again. It might take a day, a week, a month, a year, but what’s meant to be will always find its way. So do not lose hope or faith. Love to each and every one of my readers. Always here for anyone who needs to talk and anyone who needs helps.
In conclusion, if I made anyone mad with this post, I apologize. I feel like I may have said some things that might turn some heads and be like, “whaaaaaat?”. Lol. So, if I did I am sorry.
Psalm 34:18 The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.